Tuesday, February 15, 2011

The Blog I Never Wanted to Write

Last Saturday, one of my friend’s home burned to the ground. That same day, another friend’s husband died in an accident. They are both in my writers group.

In part jest, some have said my group must be the unluckiest bunch of people around. Others have told me to get out before it’s my turn. I don’t believe either.

What I do believe is that in life things happen for a reason. I believe before we came to earth that we chose those people with whom we would share joy, love, and yes, sorrow. I feel very blessed to have been hand picked by my two friends to be a support to them in times of trial.

And, since this is a blog about writing, I will say that grief, sadness, and pain are exceptional teachers in learning how to become great authors. What better way is there to explain those same emotions in our characters than to have felt them for ourselves? And despite the amazing publishing contract we all want, for most of us, writing is about understanding life. And life is about living. And living is about Happiness. Heartache. And, most importantly, healing.

29 comments:

  1. I couldn't agree with you more about learning from sorrow and grief. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your friends.

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  2. "Writing is about understanding life"--thanks for this powerful reminder of why we keep plugging, and how heartache can provide an opportunity to connect and grow.

    Wishing your friends blessings and grace as they heal from these difficult circumstances.

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  3. So sorry to hear it, Lois. You all will be in my thoughts ...

    EJW

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  4. I fully agree with what you said about everything, especially the bad things teaching us for writing.
    I wish you and your friends all the best.

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  5. Wow, Lois. This post hit right at the heart of what I'm feeling right now.
    I feel like the last three days have completely altered the way I look at the world and the things I think are important.
    I feel blessed to have a group like all of you in my life, and I'm glad we can bond together and help each other when horrible things happen.

    Love you!

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  6. It's hard to imagine some things happening for a reason when they tear your heart out. At the same time, I have to believe that they do, otherwise life would seem like a big chaotic happenstance.

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  7. My thoughts and prayers are with the people in your group. It's true what you said about writing.

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  8. Lois, my prayers with you all. There is no coincidence when it comes to people in our lives (IMHO). We are where we are needed. Sometimes people drift in and out, but there is purpose to it. I agree-writing is about understanding life.

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  9. Lois, thank you for articulating that so well. I feel the exact same way. This bizarre string of events would be unbearable without the support of the cube. You guys are incredible.

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  10. Having been part of a writing group for a while, I totally understand. Births, deaths, moves and job agonies have all been woven into the fabric of our conversations about writing.

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  11. My heartfelt condolences to your friends at this difficult time. As writers I too feel we have to experience the sadness, disappointments and the joys of life.

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  12. im just real sorry for that sad and bad stuff but im glad your friends got you for a support. its just real important to have support when you could need it. for sure that life stuff could help you being a better writer. i think my stories got lots of feeling cause of my stuff i had happen in my life. youre a really nice person to be a good support for you friends.
    ...hugs from lenny

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  13. I'm sorry for all the bad life junk. But you're right. We can draw on all of this for our writing and it makes us much better writers. We have felt what we write about. I'm a fellow crusader. Very nice to know you.

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  14. Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry your group is experiencing such tragedy. One of those is bad enough, but both? Wow. I'm saying a prayer for each of you, and I'm glad you're there for your friends. They need you now more than ever.

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  15. Love you, Lois. So glad to be a part of US.

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  16. My heart goes out to your friends fellow crusader.

    Nikki

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  17. That is a lot of heart ache in just a short time. Stay strong, and (((HUGS))) to you all.

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  18. Wishing you all the best.
    Stopping by to introduce myself as a new follower and fellow crusader. Did you find out what group you're in yet?

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  19. I'm so sorry to hear about your friend's tragedies. I just stopped by to say hello to a fellow Crusader. So, hi.

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  20. *HUGS* to your buddies. I, too, believe that we have chosen our friends before we were sent here to earth. I will keep your friends in my prayers.

    ♥.•*¨ Elizabeth ¨*•.♥

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  21. Oh my stars! I'm so sorry to hear about your writing friends and their heartaches. Hope things improve quickly.

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  22. New follower and fellow Crusader. I had read about this sad news on Spin Me Write Round earlier this morning. I've been thinking of your group all day. I'm sorry for this sadness. Breaks my heart.

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  23. Hello fellow crusader. I'm already a follower, but I wanted to stop by and say "hi!"

    I'm sorry to hear such sad news. I'd say your friends are very lucky to have you there to support them.

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  24. Beautiful post.

    I am sorry to hear about both your friends' suffering; they are lucky to have a strong friend like you, who is willing to be that shoulder.

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  25. How terrible for your friends! I do hope you're not next.

    Happy to see another LDS crusader! (There seem to be a lot of us.)

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  26. hello fellow Crusader, I am so sorry to hear this sad news. But you hit the nail on the head: we're here to live and to share life experiences. We write about the experiences that make us human.

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  27. very thought provoking!
    Hope your friends pull through ok :)

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  28. I can attest: things DO happen for a reason. And what doesn't kill us makes us stronger! So sorry to hear of this news.

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